As part of our aftercare support, we have commissioned some articles from our resident therapist, Diane Youdale.
Life Force is what it says. The life-giving energy we have to give us momentum to do our daily doings (eat, sleep, move), deal with our memories, pitch towards a future and generally be well!
Chi as it is known in the East, your life-giving energy. We are an electrical biological organic bag of humanness… and have a responsibility to uphold the wellness of this vessel for as long as life force runs through us.
There are many studies that surround what passing is. When we pass there is a shift in mass, not body weight and it is not known what this actually is.
It’s possible that there is the moment there is this shift from life force leaving the physical constraints of the body. To go where? These are big questions and concepts which can unite and divide. It’s your take on this that matters, no one else’s.
Ultimately, you will know on some level when and how your life force functions at its best.
Out in nature, on a beach, swimming in the sea. Good people with no agendas who are easy to be around (very rare and you’ll know when you’ve got it right as you’ll hear yourself saying or thinking things like ‘we are ‘in tune’, ‘easy to be with’ etc.)
We owe it to ourselves as to how to elevate and embrace Life Force, our vital energy.
Good sleep, eating and activity practices that only you can do and discipline yourself to do.
Make it pleasurable and a non-negotiable part of your personal routine, which is not for anyone else to shape or do for you.
This is the life contract you’ve been given and precious… hold it in your being well.
You’ll reap the reward of a life so you can negotiate the ups and downs easier than if you don’t.
We can all go through phases when we’re vulnerable, malfunctioning and so can use alcohol or drugs to prop or numb. This lowers life force measurably meaning you have less in the way of vital coping skills to get through, when you most need it.
You can turn it around. We get good at what we practice remember and so every day employ small steps towards improving how you uphold your life force by whatever means… and only allow those to be around you who support this.
If this is difficult, get support with how you hold boundaries through counselling.
Boundaries so others don’t manipulate and push their ‘stuff/problems’ on to you which aren’t yours to deal with. Especially at such a time as loss.
It’s an art and you owe it to yourself to become good at holding your boundaries.
Other’s may not like it as they’re not getting your vital life force for their gain (which you’ll feel).
So, make the changes you can and often it aids in them making changes too and enjoy your magnificent Life Force!
To read more from this series, please click here or contact one of the bereavement support groups here.
For further support, you could book an initial online assessment with our therapist for £65 by emailing [email protected]
Diane is a certified and experienced Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Coach. She is a lecturer, Trainer and Tutor in Counselling Psychotherapy. She has decades of experience in all aspects of therapy and is also a founder of The Core Philosophy complete wellbeing programme.